Mothers day isn’t about having gifts or cake

 

Mother’s day to me isn’t about having gifts or cakes, even though it is nice to have them and more.

For me it is about the family coming together and showing their love for me. I’m happy with just a hug and

kisses, and hearing those four words ” I love you, Mom.”

 

That is what Mom’s day is to me.

 

My Mother’s day started on Saturday, when our daughter Heather, who is 18 asked if she could do my nails. I told her she could, and so we went outside and sat on the porch. It was a nice sunny day, but a little bit windy.

 

Heather asked if this Sunday was Mom’s day and I told her yes, so she told me that she doing my nails was my Mom’s

day gift! She painted them light blue with glitter, and put blue heart stickers on them. They looked so pretty.

 

Our youngest son Donnie who is 10, came outside also and just played around for a little bit. 

 

Alll of a sudden I hear Donnie say “Here Mom”. I look down and he is handing me a rock. He had found a black maker under the porch and the rock had a face on it; the nose was a little heart. Did he stop there, not at all, he made another rock face, this time a baby one with “I love you ” on the back of it. Then he made another rock with Mom on it. I ended up with a wonderful collection of rocks from our son. He loves rocks and giving them to Mom for Mother’s day.

 

I also got some wonderful cards from the kids, which they all had picked out for me. They had also picked out a card from my hubby because he can’t get out himself.

 

However my husband had me up at 5:45 am to watch a song by Adam Sandler which he sang to his Mom, and my hubby thought it was cute.The song was ” Why I Love MOM”.

 

Angel is 15 and I went to church with her at 10 am.  it was such a wonderful service and after the service was over the younger kids passed out chocolate covered strawberries which were really yummy.

 

We came home and Heather gave me a Best Mom’s award.

 

Our son John who 23, and his girl friend Cathie who is 24 gave me a dolphin necklace. The necklace had a gold Mom dolphin and a silver baby dolphin.

 

Matthew who is 12,  made me dinner of cheese burgers, curly fries and cheese fries.

 

The girls and Donnie made me cake balls, and 2 cakes. One cake was with chocolate and sunflower seeds and both cakes with chocolate frosting. Yes, I love chocolate.

 

We had cake and milk. 

 

I also got a call from Crystal who is 26 wishing me a happy Mom’s day, and Kim who is 25 wished me happy Mom’s day on Facebook.

 

It was such a wonderful Mom’s day.

 

I love you Crystal, Kim, John, Daniel, Heather, Angel, Matthew, Donnie.

 

Thanks for a wonderful Mom’s day.

 

Love mom xoxox

 

It was such a wonderful Mom’s day because I had most of my family

at home with me, and our other two daughters remembered me to wish me

a happy Mom’s day.  It ended with hugs and kisses from all kids and “I love

you Mom”

Thank you for reading my post. Please feel free to
leave a comment or questions below.

Bonnie Squires

Where Has Bonnie Been

I’m not writing this blog for any one to feel sorry 
for me or take pitty on me. I’m hoping what I write
here will help some one else so they know they aren’t
alone in this world I’m here for any one.

I would love to say I’ve been to Disney with my family.
But the truth is I’ve been very sick. I though 2013 that
my health would be better than years before. Not so.

I’ve cataracts in both eyes which makes it hard to see
and write and to correct words when they are wrong.
This is one reason I stopped blogging and commenting
on Facebook,Twitter,Google plus and other sites. Because
I’m tired of hearing don’t you know how to write or that’s why
there is spell check. The thing is I can’t see the small words.
My texts is set at 150 and there are times I still can’t see.
I will know on may 1st if I can have my eyes done.

 

I need an ok from my doctor because I was in the hospital for 2 and a 1/2 which seemed like a life time to me.
I need to go back in September for another enderscope to see if the lump in my chest has gotten bigger.

I’ll be getting my teeth done next month so I can get my hip replaced.

I want to thank all the groups I belong to for not kicking me out.

I;m not a quiter I’m a fighter and I will keep
fighting and God will be there holding my hand.

I’ve joined a wonderful prayer group and I’m helping out in the group. I’ve all so been sending message to members of the group that
need some one and I will be trying to expand this
with my own church now I’ve a directy of church members. This way I feel like i’m doing some thing and I don’t feel use less now.

I would like to thank MaryLou Drury,Donna E White-Platt,Starlette Mitchell Vaughn ,Jim Russell,Delphine Noon Bebo,Julia Latto
for being there when I needed a ear or a shoulder
to cry on and helping me threw this time.

I hope you will comment me or ask questions

God bless ever one

Bonnie Squires
@bonnie67

Help Katie Go To NJ To Help Hurricane Sandy People

I’m writing this blog in the hope of
helping my friend Katie out. She has
has a wonderful chance to go and help
out Hurricane Sandy People. There was so
much devastation there that the good lord
has called on Katie and her church to help
out. This blog is my way of helping out
Katie out.

If you can not give any money please share
this on other social media site you are on
and say a prayer that Kathie you raise the
funds she need.

This is what Kathie had to say.

I am going on a mission trip to Galloway NJ to help with the victims of Hurricane Sandy. I am going with a church group. We are going on Wednesday December 19th-22. If anyone would like to help donate money for me to get there. I need $120 by December 11th. Thank you. You can make checks payable to Grace Community Church and send to 8200 Old Columbia Road Fulton, MD 2075. Please put on the check Katie Hartnett
So the church knows who it is for. If you don’t want to send a check
and would like to send it to pay pal you can send it to my pay pal
bonnie.s.squires@gmail.com and I will send a check for Kathie.
Any bit helps.

What we would be doing POSSIBLE WORK TEAM ASSIGNMENTS:
• Help support our Church partners in a variety of ways
• All aspects of church and home reconstruction and repair
• Cooking for your team (or a season of teams) &/or helping with meal preparation or cleanup
• Maintenance of the church & warehouse facilities
• Prayer Walks in the areas of homeowners whose homes are being repaired
• Prayer warriors for the area of churches
• Home visits in the neighborhoods to build relationships, to disciple new believers, etc.
• There is an ongoing need for people with the gift of serving, evangelism and empathy
• Administrative work
• Help with block parties to our friends in the neighborhoods – as a form of loving them for
Christ Jesus and building relationships

Thank you for reading my blog.
Please leave comments or questions
in the comment below.

Have a great day
Bonnie Squires

Bonnie on twitter

Because Love is bigger than anything else

I’m not writing this blog for people to pity me or feel sorry for me. I’m hoping that my telling of my story will help others see that life’s not so bad for them and that each of us is bigger and stronger than our problems. Being bigger and stronger than our problems, we can think about today and the future in a different way. This is what my friend Stan Faryna tells me and I don’t doubt what he’s saying. You shouldn’t either.

August 18,2010 was the day that changed my life forever. My morning started off ok. I got the kids ready for the first day of school. I even walked them in the morning. I remember, however, I tripped a lot more than usual. I’m not the most agile of walkers, but my legs seemed to be unstable. If I stopped walking my legs would start shaking bad. Our son was with me and he was concerned. I told him, “Just let’s get home.”

We got home and by that time I just was shaking bad I figured maybe I was hungry. Because I hadn’t eaten before I left. I ate. It didn’t help. So I thought maybe just I was tired. Wrong again.

By the time the kids got home, my legs and arms were shaking uncontrollably. I couldn’t speak. I was crying. I was finally able to ask our son John to take me to the hospital. I thought I had a stroke.

John drove like a mad man to the hospital, he carried me into the emergency ward, and he was yelling so loud, “I think my mom is having a stroke!”

When the doctor checked on me, he said that he didn’t no what was wrong with me. He gave me a shot to calm me down. In one week, I was in and out of the hospital eight times. Ever time, they told me there wasn’t any thing they could do.

Initially, my doctor thought I may have Parkinson’s disease. I was having trouble with some of the basic tests. Like me touching my nose like during an intoxication review that a police officer will give to a driver suspected of driving under the influence. I understood the doctor’s instructions, but I was unable to touch my nose. I was also shaking so hard, it wasn’t funny. The doctor also had me lift my feet up to my knees (one by one) and I almost fell over trying to do it.

The doctor made an appointment to see a specialist in neurology. The neurologist believed I had a physiologic tremor. If caught in 6 months, it can be cured. Mine has gone on for more than a year now, so I’m just trying to learn to live with the shaking.

I had an EKG, MRI, and a brain wave test. All came out normal. They tell me that I have a movement disorder and only meds can help me to live with it. I’ve tried deep breathing, listening to music, and other things but they only help a little. I don’t get a lot done like this. That bothers me.

This last year has been very hard on me. My daughter wants her old mom back and our son misses me walking them to school. I use to walk 20 miles five days a week. Now I can’t even walk a mile. My right arm shakes all the time. It’s hard to type on a computer.

About all I can do is play Facebook games, do Twitter, and read blog posts. Commenting on blog posts though is hard. I struggle with depression and loneliness.

Through it all, three people have kept me from losing it completely. Stan Faryna, Marie Horne Wikle, and Donna E Platt.

Our daughter would keep in touch with Donna for me because half the the time I couldn’t type. Donna kept our Facebook message group going. Most of the members are from Yuwie – a social network that died out some years ago. They are kind and wonderful people.

Stan would get updates from our daughter too. In the meantime, he sent me messages asking how I was feeling, telling me about his life, and sharing inspiration with me. You might not know it, but Stan’s faith in God’s love for us is like a big old rock in the midst of a rising, terrible flood. It’s something you can crawl up on and find peace.

When Stan says he is praying for you, you know that his lips are moving and he’s pouring out his heart for you to God. I think a lot of people don’t get that about Stan. Maybe it’s not interesting to them. But if you are in trouble, he will walk by your side through hell. Not a lot of people in this world that can or will do that for a friend.

Marie was a great help when I told her I felt useless to everyone. She told me that I wasn’t useless and that I was a blessing and I could do things from home and my computer. It’s something Stan had been telling me, but I wasn’t hearing him. Marie helped me feel that I am a gift to the world and that there was no shame to be an inspiration to others and help them do the things that God wants them to do.

Marie has spread joy in my life. It’s funny that her Twitter handle is @spreadingjoy. She does it!

Donna, Marie, and Stan encouraged me to start blogging again. They recommended blog posts for me to read. They helped me to see that my few blog posts and tweets can make a difference.

Now my left arm is shaking. Stan suggested that I should try voice recognition software, but I don’t know what to try, how to set it up, or how to pay for it. If you can recommend something and explain it to me, I’d be grateful.

I want you to know that I’m not a quitter and nothing will get to me again. Because God has put me here for a reason. Because God doesn’t give us more than we can handle. I am bigger than my problems. So are you!

Because Love is bigger than anything else.

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God Bless us, every one!

Bonnie Squires
@bonnie67

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Would you like to read my other posts?

1. Love doesn’t have to cost anything
2. Laugh, Love, and Blogging #Triberr
3. Are you wonderful people?
4. Can love move as fast as technology?
5. @bonnie67 has love enough for the whole world
6. Love is six parts giving and one part talk

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I recommend blog posts by my friends. Its what friends do.

Here’s recent posts that I liked. I’m listing 42 in honor of my friend Stan’s birthday.

1. Twitter Junior High via Terri Nakamura
2. Letting Go of that Toxic Relationship, Even if you Love the Person via Karla Campos
3. Dare To Dream Big: From Illinois Slave to Renowned Educator via Sandra Humphrey
4. Day 401 via Nisha Varghese
5.  A New Directory For Locating Quality DoFollow Blogs via Adrienne Smith
6. Is Social Media for Me? via Betsy Cross
7. Crash Accidents, Risks and Consequences via Samantha Bangayan
8. Luxurious Decorations for your Castle or Estate via Stan Faryna
9. Did Video Kill the Radio Star? via Bill Dorman
10. Who Owns You via Janet Callaway
11. I Will Never Make It Without You via Joanne Cipressi
12. A Christmas Journey Home via Marie Horne Wikle
13. Do You Want To Change The World via Aaron Biebert
14. What Should Bloggers Write About? via JMB
15. Do Dollow Blogs for Bloggers via Christian Hollingsworth
16. How Triberr Changes The Competitive Landscape via Yomar Lopez
17. How To Deal With Stupid Clowns via John Garrett
18. Who wants to be first via James St. John
19. Stop Playing Follow the Leader and Be the Leader via Robert Dempsey
20. Your Remedy For iPhone Envy via Carolyn Nicander Mohr
21. Business Smacks Down Klout via Erica Mallison
22. Early Achievers In The Pre-Holiday Facebook: Game of Like via Dorien Morin Van Dam
23. Pre-Holiday Facebook: Game of Like via Keri Jaehnig
24. Create an online Conversation via Gini Dietrich
25. An Interview with Gini Dietrich via Craig Mcbreen
26. The Lie that is Online Transparency and being True to Self via Marcus Sheridan
27. Top 20 Websites for Toddlers to Play Games On via Eren Mckay
28. Healing is about Love and Compassion via Patricia Singlet
29. What Your Favorite Ice Cream Says About You via Diana Adams
30. Casual Collectives: Tomorrow’s Roadkill via Saul Fleishman
31. Are you a head nodder walk-a-wayer? via Lisa Faeth
32. Alaskan Chick Alaskan Expat via Amber Lee
33. All together now – everyone say focus via Stacey Herbert
34. Dads are parents too via Bruce Sallan
35. Selfish Blogger Needing Help via Eugene Farber
36. 7 Signs that your blog is falling off the cliff via Tim Soulo
37. So you want to be the next big thing? via Lori Taylor
38. 5 Tips To Learn how To Let Go via Aline Hanle
39. Things We Should Ask The ROI Question About via Scott Stratten
40. ServeHope via Amanda Hite
41. Never Assume Anything via Ameena Falchetto
42. Happy 42 to me! And other social media DOHs via Stan Faryna

Love is six parts giving and one part talk

Rachel Beckwith was nine years old when she died from injuries sustained in a car accident. You can read more about her story here.

Rachel’s fundraiser gathered over $1,186,208 for clean water projects – $1,185,988 after her death. Rachel’s original goal was $300. However, she had only raised $220 when she was alive. Rachel’s story touches my soul. Her story gives me hope about people and especially about children. Rachel’s story reminds us that we are connected at deep levels – that we do care about each other.

But I am also saddened that it takes the heart-breaking death of a nine year old to take us to that depth where we do care for each other. We all need to get to that place in our hearts without great tragedies. This concern brings me to Nisha Varghese.

Nisha is a 20 year old South African woman who was born with Cerebral Palsy. She can’t walk and she only has the use of one arm. But Nisha blogs every day. She’s blogging, most of all, to raise money for clean water projects. I’ve mentioned Nisha before in a previous blog post.

I came to know about Nisha through my friend Stan Faryna. He has donated hundreds of dollars to Nisha’s project. You can see his donations in the list of donations at the bottom of Nisha’s fundraising page. Stan has tweeted about Nisha’s project almost daily for many months and he shared her story with many people. He also encourages Nisha in comments on her blog.

I encourage you to follow Stan’s example. I’m asking you to do ALL three things:

1. Donate at least $5 to Nisha’s Clean Water Project.
2. Tweet or post about Nisha’s Water Project once per day for 30 days.
3. Encourage Nisha with a comment on her blog once per week for four weeks.

You will heal your soul if you do this. You will heal all of our souls if you join me in this campaign of selfless giving and love.

I imagine Rachel looking down from heaven and asking each of us to help Nisha. I imagine Rachel is cheering for Nisha. She’s saying, “Go girl, go. You can make a difference. You can change the world for the better.”

Nisha is a wonderful and kind young lady. She makes me laugh and smile. Her courage to make a difference inspires me. In the face of her physical challenges, she reminds us why we are here and how much we can do. She is a servant leader.

Nisha needs $1,901 to reach her goal of $6,500. Together, we can carry her across the finish line and the extra mile. I have over 6,000 followers on Twitter and over 600 friends on Facebook. If 10 percent of them have a soul and heart, we will directly bring over $3,300 to Nisha’s Clean Water Project. And if 10 percent of the friends and followers of our friends and followers join us, I can see us getting Nisha’s Water Project to $100,000 in no time. That will make a big difference!

Nisha has no idea I’ve written this blog. On Monday, when she comes back online, I would love to see her goal reached. Will you join me?

You can give to Nisha’s Clean Water Project at
http://www.firstgiving.com/fundraiser/nisha-varghese/nishavarghese

You can also find out more about Nisha here.

Janet, Richard, Stacey, Gini, Lisa, Aaron, and Carolyn , please help me to help Nisha. Everyone else too! Please help me to help Nisha!

God Bless us, every one!

Bonnie Squires

Would you like to read my other posts?

1. Love doesn’t have to cost anything

2. Laugh, Love, and Blogging #Triberr

3. Are you wonderful people?

4. Can love move as fast as technology?

5. @bonnie67 has love enough for the whole world

I normally recommend blog posts by my friends. That’s what friends do. But I’m not well. It was difficult for me to make this post. I hope you can forgive me for not making the links. I promise to list your blog posts and links when I am feeling better.

Love doesn’t have to cost anything

Stan Faryna and I were chatting on the Facebook chatbox about ideas for blog posts. I suggested a blog post about things we could do for others with out using a lot of money. Money is tight for a lot of people these days. But that doesn’t mean the love has to stop. Stan said it was a great idea, but he asked me not to mention him in this blog post. He felt that me mentioning him in almost every blog post might be trying on all my other friends. “Oh hush,” I said!

The men and women that perform public service often go out of their way and take out of their own time to serve the public. Yes, there’s bad apples out there, but I personally know government workers that often go out of their way to do the job right. They usually don’t get much thanks for it either – as if going out of their way was in the job description. So here’s some ways you can give them love and thanks.

(1) The mailman (or woman) doesn’t get the same welcome and thank you that they used to get. During the winter, we used to give him or her, a cup of coffee, tea or hot chocolate when they came by the house. In the summer time, we had a cold drink waiting for them – water or ice tea. Things are different now, but you can still be waiting for them with a hot drink in a styro-foam cup. Or a bottle of water.

(2) Likewise, the trash man doesn’t get a lot of appreciation. They come early in the morning. Around the holidays, you can tape a five dollar bill to the trash can with a note saying, Thank you and God Bless!

(3) If you have frequent business with government office workers, bring flowers and candy and remind them that you know it’s not government that’s doing it’s job, it’s them. It’s people – it’s them that solve your problems, answer your questions, and make it all work. The flowers and candy don’t have to be the most expensive – the intention counts.

(4) If you see a man and woman in U.S. military uniform, thank them for their service. Give them a handshake, hug, or say, God bless you. Do it with a smile and mean it. It will touch their heart.

The elderly remind us that we don’t live forever. They remind us we’re not always going to be as strong or fast as we used to be. In their humility, they share their humility with us. They also give us an opportunity to share our kindness and empathy with them.

(5) When you’re in line at the cashier of your grocery store and you find yourself behind an elderly person, offer to help them unload their cart or basket. Propose it to them with a kind smile. Be gentle, gracious, and patient whether or not they accept your help.

(6) You might also offer to help them load their groceries into their car – if the store does not have someone there to load cars. Make your offer of kindness in front of everyone so that the elderly person can be sure that your intentions are to help them – not to take advantage of them.

(7) Bring good books and interesting magazines to a senior care facility near you. Bring them that great science fiction novel or romance that you just told all your friends about. Don’t bring them a book you didn’t like and don’t bring them a magazine that is many years old. Like you, they are curious about what is happening in the world right now.

Our friends that we make online can be some of the best friends ever. We share our troubles and joys with them. My online friends encourage and support me each in their own way, but often with a lot more attention and commitment than my offline friends.

But I know that sometimes they need me and they are embarrassed to ask. And it’s not like I’m going to know what’s always happening to them because I’m not showing up unexpectedly at their front door when I haven’t heard from them in a few days.

(8) Try to remember you’re in a real relationship with a real person who needs to often hear things from you like Good Morning, Good Night, How are you?, I’m Praying for You, Happy Birthday, I miss you, I appreciate you, etc.

(9) On special occasions such as their birthday or even on Christmas, send your dearest online friends a small token of your friendship. Like a kitchen magnet from where you live. Or a postcard. It will help them know that they are not alone in the physical world. It doesn’t have to be expensive. It could be a small note saying, Thank you for being my friend!

(10) Share your story with your online friends. Let them know the authentic you. Recently, Stan made a podcast about how he feels different and alone at times because of the things that happened in his life. I felt that I came to a better understanding, deeper empathy, and thankfulness for him. Go and listen to it here. Though I have known him for four years, his recent podcasts have made him more dear, real, and inspiring to my heart.

There’s lot of things you can do without spending a dollar. You don’t need a million dollars to start doing good. You don’t even need a nickel. If you can smile, shake a hand, or hold someone. If you can say, Thank you, I love you, or I’m sorry. Or like Nisha Varghese says, if you can make them feel you see them, you hear them, and that they are real to you. Nisha is a wonderful young lady.

I have more things on my list. I’ll be sharing them with you later. But I think what I described here is going to get you thinking.

What things can you do to make sure that others feel the love? Please share them with us in the comments below.

Yours truly,

Bonnie Squires
@bonnie67

Would you like to read my other posts?

Laugh, Love, and Blogging #Triberr

Are you wonderful people?

Can love move as fast as technology?

@bonnie67 has love enough for the whole world

I recommend blog posts by my friends. That’s what friends do.

Here’s recent posts that I liked:

1. No Charge For Love by Richard Bejah

2. Launching #NicheAmnesty.TV: A Fun Way To Start Your Weekend by Stacey Herbert

3. Leadership When All Hell is Breaking Loose by Aaron Biebert

4. Alaska Chick Rule #24, Don’t Wait For The Rain To Stop by Amber Lee

5. Confessions of a Freak, Geek and Misfit by Stan Faryna

6. Mr. Rebates – Your New Best Friend! All Star Edition by Carolyn Nicander Mohr

7. Friday… Is a Wishing Well… Kinda Day… by Lisa Faeth

8. Billy the Exterminator is a Branding Genius by Erica Mallison

9. Are You Really Prepared? by Frank Jennings

10. What’s Your Ikigai? by Lori Gosselin

11. Lean On Me by Bill Dorman

12. Gaming, the Economy, and Riots by Gini Dietrich

@bonnie67 has love enough for the whole world. #nicheamnesty

@bonnie67 has love enough for the whole world

I’m thankful to God. I’m thankful for you. It’s tough sometimes. But that doesn’t mean there isn’t love. There’s always more than enough love to go around. I hope you will remember that.

I was molested as a child. I was raped several times as a young woman. My dad was an alcoholic. He used to beat my mom. Until he died when I was 6. It hurts to remember these things.

I can’t always pay the bills. I worry about where we’re going to live. I worry about how I’m going to put food on the table. It hurts to think that I can’t do better for my family.

I have a physiological movement disorder. It effects my speech and my typing. It effects my legs and hands. It started when I broke my arm and didn’t get it treated. Things have gotten worse and worse.

There’s a lot of pain, fear, and sorrow in my life. But there’s a lot of love and joy in my life too. It’s a wonderful life and I’m thankful for it.

I love my family, dearly. They are my heart, soul, and life. I would do anything for them.

I’ve had 29 years with the love of my life. We have 8 kids. 4 girls. 4 boys. Our oldest is going to be 26. 6 out of 8 of our children have special needs. All of my children are gifts from God.

I love my friends – online and offline. They are gifts from God too. Stan Faryna, for example, encourages me to share my life, my love, and my heart with the world.

I don’t write well. I misspell. Sometimes, I don’t feel well. But he says that don’t matter. Stan says that what matters is what we bring from the heart. To bring it when I can.

Maybe you don’t believe in friendship. Life can be so hard and painful that you might have come to that conclusion. But if you open your heart to me, I will open my heart to you. I have a lot of love to give. I have enough love for the whole world.

If you don’t believe me, put me to the test. You don’t even need to believe in love. I got enough love for both of us.

What are you afraid of?

Yours truly,

Bonnie Squires
@bonnie67

Would you like to read my other posts?

Are you wonderful people?

Can love move as fast as technology?

I recommend blog posts by my friends. Here’s recent posts that I liked:

Are You Ready for Love? And Other Social Media DOHs. by Stan Faryna

Day 314. by Nisha Varghese

Good or Bad, It Takes Two to Tango. by Aaron Biebert