Posts Tagged ‘Stan Faryna’

Because Love is bigger than anything else

October 20, 2011

Because Love is bigger than anything else

I’m not writing this blog for people to pity me or feel sorry for me. I’m hoping that my telling of my story will help others see that life’s not so bad for them and that each of us is bigger and stronger than our problems. Being bigger and stronger than our problems, we can think about today and the future in a different way. This is what my friend Stan Faryna tells me and I don’t doubt what he’s saying. You shouldn’t either.

August 18,2010 was the day that changed my life forever. My morning started off ok. I got the kids ready for the first day of school. I even walked them in the morning. I remember, however, I tripped a lot more than usual. I’m not the most agile of walkers, but my legs seemed to be unstable. If I stopped walking my legs would start shaking bad. Our son was with me and he was concerned. I told him, “Just let’s get home.”

We got home and by that time I just was shaking bad I figured maybe I was hungry. Because I hadn’t eaten before I left. I ate. It didn’t help. So I thought maybe just I was tired. Wrong again.

By the time the kids got home, my legs and arms were shaking uncontrollably. I couldn’t speak. I was crying. I was finally able to ask our son John to take me to the hospital. I thought I had a stroke.

John drove like a mad man to the hospital, he carried me into the emergency ward, and he was yelling so loud, “I think my mom is having a stroke!”

When the doctor checked on me, he said that he didn’t no what was wrong with me. He gave me a shot to calm me down. In one week, I was in and out of the hospital eight times. Ever time, they told me there wasn’t any thing they could do.

Initially, my doctor thought I may have Parkinson’s disease. I was having trouble with some of the basic tests. Like me touching my nose like during an intoxication review that a police officer will give to a driver suspected of driving under the influence. I understood the doctor’s instructions, but I was unable to touch my nose. I was also shaking so hard, it wasn’t funny. The doctor also had me lift my feet up to my knees (one by one) and I almost fell over trying to do it.

The doctor made an appointment to see a specialist in neurology. The neurologist believed I had a physiologic tremor. If caught in 6 months, it can be cured. Mine has gone on for more than a year now, so I’m just trying to learn to live with the shaking.

I had an EKG, MRI, and a brain wave test. All came out normal. They tell me that I have a movement disorder and only meds can help me to live with it. I’ve tried deep breathing, listening to music, and other things but they only help a little. I don’t get a lot done like this. That bothers me.

This last year has been very hard on me. My daughter wants her old mom back and our son misses me walking them to school. I use to walk 20 miles five days a week. Now I can’t even walk a mile. My right arm shakes all the time. It’s hard to type on a computer.

About all I can do is play Facebook games, do Twitter, and read blog posts. Commenting on blog posts though is hard. I struggle with depression and loneliness.

Through it all, three people have kept me from losing it completely. Stan Faryna, Marie Horne Wikle, and Donna E Platt.

Our daughter would keep in touch with Donna for me because half the the time I couldn’t type. Donna kept our Facebook message group going. Most of the members are from Yuwie – a social network that died out some years ago. They are kind and wonderful people.

Stan would get updates from our daughter too. In the meantime, he sent me messages asking how I was feeling, telling me about his life, and sharing inspiration with me. You might not know it, but Stan’s faith in God’s love for us is like a big old rock in the midst of a rising, terrible flood. It’s something you can crawl up on and find peace.

When Stan says he is praying for you, you know that his lips are moving and he’s pouring out his heart for you to God. I think a lot of people don’t get that about Stan. Maybe it’s not interesting to them. But if you are in trouble, he will walk by your side through hell. Not a lot of people in this world that can or will do that for a friend.

Marie was a great help when I told her I felt useless to everyone. She told me that I wasn’t useless and that I was a blessing and I could do things from home and my computer. It’s something Stan had been telling me, but I wasn’t hearing him. Marie helped me feel that I am a gift to the world and that there was no shame to be an inspiration to others and help them do the things that God wants them to do.

Marie has spread joy in my life. It’s funny that her Twitter handle is @spreadingjoy. She does it!

Donna, Marie, and Stan encouraged me to start blogging again. They recommended blog posts for me to read. They helped me to see that my few blog posts and tweets can make a difference.

Now my left arm is shaking. Stan suggested that I should try voice recognition software, but I don’t know what to try, how to set it up, or how to pay for it. If you can recommend something and explain it to me, I’d be grateful.

I want you to know that I’m not a quitter and nothing will get to me again. Because God has put me here for a reason. Because God doesn’t give us more than we can handle. I am bigger than my problems. So are you!

Because Love is bigger than anything else.

God Bless us, every one!

Bonnie Squires
@bonnie67

Would you like to read my other posts?

1. Love doesn’t have to cost anything
2. Laugh, Love, and Blogging #Triberr
3. Are you wonderful people?
4. Can love move as fast as technology?
5. @bonnie67 has love enough for the whole world
6. Love is six parts giving and one part talk

I recommend blog posts by my friends. Its what friends do.

Here’s recent posts that I liked. I’m listing 42 in honor of my friend Stan’s birthday.

1. Twitter Junior High via Terri Nakamura
2. Letting Go of that Toxic Relationship, Even if you Love the Person via Karla Campos
3. Dare To Dream Big: From Illinois Slave to Renowned Educator via Sandra Humphrey
4. Day 401 via Nisha Varghese
5.  A New Directory For Locating Quality DoFollow Blogs via Adrienne Smith
6. Is Social Media for Me? via Betsy Cross
7. Crash Accidents, Risks and Consequences via Samantha Bangayan
8. Luxurious Decorations for your Castle or Estate via Stan Faryna
9. Did Video Kill the Radio Star? via Bill Dorman
10. Who Owns You via Janet Callaway
11. I Will Never Make It Without You via Joanne Cipressi
12. A Christmas Journey Home via Marie Horne Wikle
13. Do You Want To Change The World via Aaron Biebert
14. What Should Bloggers Write About? via JMB
15. Do Dollow Blogs for Bloggers via Christian Hollingsworth
16. How Triberr Changes The Competitive Landscape via Yomar Lopez
17. How To Deal With Stupid Clowns via John Garrett
18. Who wants to be first via James St. John
19. Stop Playing Follow the Leader and Be the Leader via Robert Dempsey
20. Your Remedy For iPhone Envy via Carolyn Nicander Mohr
21. Business Smacks Down Klout via Erica Mallison
22. Early Achievers In The Pre-Holiday Facebook: Game of Like via Dorien Morin Van Dam
23. Pre-Holiday Facebook: Game of Like via Keri Jaehnig
24. Create an online Conversation via Gini Dietrich
25. An Interview with Gini Dietrich via Craig Mcbreen
26. The Lie that is Online Transparency and being True to Self via Marcus Sheridan
27. Top 20 Websites for Toddlers to Play Games On via Eren Mckay
28. Healing is about Love and Compassion via Patricia Singlet
29. What Your Favorite Ice Cream Says About You via Diana Adams
30. Casual Collectives: Tomorrow’s Roadkill via Saul Fleishman
31. Are you a head nodder walk-a-wayer? via Lisa Faeth
32. Alaskan Chick Alaskan Expat via Amber Lee
33. All together now – everyone say focus via Stacey Herbert
34. Dads are parents too via Bruce Sallan
35. Selfish Blogger Needing Help via Eugene Farber
36. 7 Signs that your blog is falling off the cliff via Tim Soulo
37. So you want to be the next big thing? via Lori Taylor
38. 5 Tips To Learn how To Let Go via Aline Hanle
39. Things We Should Ask The ROI Question About via Scott Stratten
40. ServeHope via Amanda Hite
41. Never Assume Anything via Ameena Falchetto
42. Happy 42 to me! And other social media DOHs via Stan Faryna

Advertisements

Love doesn’t have to cost anything

August 13, 2011

Love doesn’t have to cost anything

Stan Faryna and I were chatting on the Facebook chatbox about ideas for blog posts. I suggested a blog post about things we could do for others with out using a lot of money. Money is tight for a lot of people these days. But that doesn’t mean the love has to stop. Stan said it was a great idea, but he asked me not to mention him in this blog post. He felt that me mentioning him in almost every blog post might be trying on all my other friends. “Oh hush,” I said!

The men and women that perform public service often go out of their way and take out of their own time to serve the public. Yes, there’s bad apples out there, but I personally know government workers that often go out of their way to do the job right. They usually don’t get much thanks for it either – as if going out of their way was in the job description. So here’s some ways you can give them love and thanks.

(1) The mailman (or woman) doesn’t get the same welcome and thank you that they used to get. During the winter, we used to give him or her, a cup of coffee, tea or hot chocolate when they came by the house. In the summer time, we had a cold drink waiting for them – water or ice tea. Things are different now, but you can still be waiting for them with a hot drink in a styro-foam cup. Or a bottle of water.

(2) Likewise, the trash man doesn’t get a lot of appreciation. They come early in the morning. Around the holidays, you can tape a five dollar bill to the trash can with a note saying, Thank you and God Bless!

(3) If you have frequent business with government office workers, bring flowers and candy and remind them that you know it’s not government that’s doing it’s job, it’s them. It’s people – it’s them that solve your problems, answer your questions, and make it all work. The flowers and candy don’t have to be the most expensive – the intention counts.

(4) If you see a man and woman in U.S. military uniform, thank them for their service. Give them a handshake, hug, or say, God bless you. Do it with a smile and mean it. It will touch their heart.

The elderly remind us that we don’t live forever. They remind us we’re not always going to be as strong or fast as we used to be. In their humility, they share their humility with us. They also give us an opportunity to share our kindness and empathy with them.

(5) When you’re in line at the cashier of your grocery store and you find yourself behind an elderly person, offer to help them unload their cart or basket. Propose it to them with a kind smile. Be gentle, gracious, and patient whether or not they accept your help.

(6) You might also offer to help them load their groceries into their car – if the store does not have someone there to load cars. Make your offer of kindness in front of everyone so that the elderly person can be sure that your intentions are to help them – not to take advantage of them.

(7) Bring good books and interesting magazines to a senior care facility near you. Bring them that great science fiction novel or romance that you just told all your friends about. Don’t bring them a book you didn’t like and don’t bring them a magazine that is many years old. Like you, they are curious about what is happening in the world right now.

Our friends that we make online can be some of the best friends ever. We share our troubles and joys with them. My online friends encourage and support me each in their own way, but often with a lot more attention and commitment than my offline friends.

But I know that sometimes they need me and they are embarrassed to ask. And it’s not like I’m going to know what’s always happening to them because I’m not showing up unexpectedly at their front door when I haven’t heard from them in a few days.

(8) Try to remember you’re in a real relationship with a real person who needs to often hear things from you like Good Morning, Good Night, How are you?, I’m Praying for You, Happy Birthday, I miss you, I appreciate you, etc.

(9) On special occasions such as their birthday or even on Christmas, send your dearest online friends a small token of your friendship. Like a kitchen magnet from where you live. Or a postcard. It will help them know that they are not alone in the physical world. It doesn’t have to be expensive. It could be a small note saying, Thank you for being my friend!

(10) Share your story with your online friends. Let them know the authentic you. Recently, Stan made a podcast about how he feels different and alone at times because of the things that happened in his life. I felt that I came to a better understanding, deeper empathy, and thankfulness for him. Go and listen to it here. Though I have known him for four years, his recent podcasts have made him more dear, real, and inspiring to my heart.

There’s lot of things you can do without spending a dollar. You don’t need a million dollars to start doing good. You don’t even need a nickel. If you can smile, shake a hand, or hold someone. If you can say, Thank you, I love you, or I’m sorry. Or like Nisha Varghese says, if you can make them feel you see them, you hear them, and that they are real to you. Nisha is a wonderful young lady.

I have more things on my list. I’ll be sharing them with you later. But I think what I described here is going to get you thinking.

What things can you do to make sure that others feel the love? Please share them with us in the comments below.

Yours truly,

Bonnie Squires
@bonnie67

Would you like to read my other posts?

Laugh, Love, and Blogging #Triberr

Are you wonderful people?

Can love move as fast as technology?

@bonnie67 has love enough for the whole world

I recommend blog posts by my friends. That’s what friends do.

Here’s recent posts that I liked:

1. No Charge For Love by Richard Bejah

2. Launching #NicheAmnesty.TV: A Fun Way To Start Your Weekend by Stacey Herbert

3. Leadership When All Hell is Breaking Loose by Aaron Biebert

4. Alaska Chick Rule #24, Don’t Wait For The Rain To Stop by Amber Lee

5. Confessions of a Freak, Geek and Misfit by Stan Faryna

6. Mr. Rebates – Your New Best Friend! All Star Edition by Carolyn Nicander Mohr

7. Friday… Is a Wishing Well… Kinda Day… by Lisa Faeth

8. Billy the Exterminator is a Branding Genius by Erica Mallison

9. Are You Really Prepared? by Frank Jennings

10. What’s Your Ikigai? by Lori Gosselin

11. Lean On Me by Bill Dorman

12. Gaming, the Economy, and Riots by Gini Dietrich

Laugh, Love, and Blogging #Triberr

August 3, 2011

Laugh, Love, and Blogging

Triberr is a community-building app that allows bloggers to build micro-communities (tribes) of like-minded bloggers who share each other’s content with their individual audiences through their Twitter streams. Let’s say there are seven members with an average of 1000 followers each. Through Triberr, a link to a new blog post will automagically tweet to all the followers of all seven members. This increases the reach of a member’s content with 1000 followers to 7000 followers.

Some people call Triberr a reach multiplier. My original reach was about 6,000 before I joined Triberr. Now my reach is 22,000. My friend Stan Faryna has 1,700 followers on Twitter, but his reach through Triberr is 839,000. Of course, he is a member of many tribes. He’s also a great writer and he’s intelligent. Stan writes about everything. So the multiplication of your reach will be determined by the merit of your writing, who you get to know, the tribes you make, and the tribes you get invited to join.

Triberr was created by Dino Dogan and Dan Cristo. It’s an invitation-only system. If you’d like an invite, please leave a comment with your email, the URL of your blog, and the topics you blog about. Yes, you have to have a blog to join Triberr. But it doesn’t matter if you are just starting out or you are one of the big bloggers like Danny Brown. Anyone can use Triberr to build a stronger community around their blog and social media practice.

I also want to say that the Triberr community is unlike any other online community. Triberr people are wonderful people. They help each other with advice, ideas, and moral support. More often than not, Triberr people take time out of their busy lives to share their knowledge, insights, and hearts with other Triberr members. You don’t even have to be in the same tribe. You just have to be in Triberr.

Christian Hollingsworth (MR Smiley Face to me) is one of the Triberrati. I just love his pictures. He’s always smiling. Janet Callaway is always willing to help out some one and give encouragement. Veronica Schultz is so wonderful and helpful. Janet, Veronica, and Christian are good listeners too.

Aaron Biebert is a successful businessman, but he really understands the importance of family. He’s very easy to approach and very helpful. Stan Faryna is an online strategist and entrepreneur, is a generous connector and commentor. Stacey Herbert is a loving, free spirit blogging from Bali. She’s helping the Triberr community to get to know each other through her latest project, #NicheAmnesty.TV.

There’s lots of great people in the Triberrati. Dino Dogan, the co-founder of Triberr, is one of the funniest bloggers ever. There’s so many wonderful people that I will have to write many blog posts about them all. So come back and see who else I write about and the big things they are doing in the blogosphere.

Until my next post, check out Triberr. If you are already in Triberr, get to know more people, reach out to the Triberrati. The best way to do that is to visit the blogs of the Triberrati and leave comments. I guarantee you that if you read seven to ten blog posts by the people I wrote about today and you leave a sincere and kind comment on each and every blog post, you will enter into the wonderful world of the triberrati just like that.

Yours truly,

Bonnie Squires
@bonnie67

Would you like to read my other posts?

Are you wonderful people?

Can love move as fast as technology?

@bonnie67 has love enough for the whole world

I recommend blog posts by my friends. That’s what friends do.

Here’s recent posts that I liked:

Launching #NicheAmnesty.TV: A Fun Way To Start Your Weekend by Stacey Herbert

Alaska Chick Rule #24, Don’t Wait For The Rain To Stop by Amber Lee

The Day The Blogosphere Stood Still by DIY Blogger

Growing Up in the Cupboard Under the Stairs by Marianne Worley

Discover The REAL Adrienne Smith #NicheAmnesty by Adrienne Smith

What is love? And Other Social Media DOHs by Stan Faryna

Online friends can be real friends by Carolyn Nicander Mohr

#NicheAmnesty Day: Odds & Ends About @ericamallison by Erica Mallison

Remember Who You Are by Betsy Cross

Say The Words That Choke You Up by Aaron Biebert

Hannah’s Story by Nisha Varghese

The 100,000th Tweet by Rob Cairns

Trust Dynamics of Twitter, Facebook, Google Plus and Triberr by Dino Dogan

(e)DUPS, the real-life CEO of Empire Avenue by Terri Nakamura


%d bloggers like this: